Home > Self Management > How to Conquer Feelings of Inferiority

How to Conquer Feelings of Inferiority

By: Ian Murnaghan BSc (hons), MSc - Updated: 3 Sep 2012 | comments*Discuss
Depressing Inferior Inferiority Complex

Feelings of inferiority begin when you start to feel you are not good enough and that you are inadequate and worthless particularly in comparison with other people. Inferiority sometimes goes hand-in-hand with depression. If you are battling depression, you may be trying to make sense of the emotions and actions that have possibly led to a low mood. Often, people who have feelings of inferiority do become depressed. An enormous but worthwhile task in managing your depression is to address your own self-image. If you have been dealing with feelings of inferiority, it may seem that you have felt this way for a long time, to the extent that it seems a part of your personality. Try asking friends and family members if they recall you always being this way, and you may find that your negative feelings and behaviours developed over time.


Individuals with low self-esteem tend to experience constant negative thoughts and feeling about themselves. They feel inferior to others and their mantra may be: 'I'm not good enough.' When positive things happen, they will often still criticize themselves and feel they should have 'done better.' Any good feelings that result from an experience are fleeting and temporary and they crave positive feedback to counteract the poor feelings they experience about themselves. Individuals with strong or healthy self-esteem tend to assess themselves more accurately. They have a greater awareness of their own abilities and can accept their faults alongside their talents. A person with healthy self-esteem is aware of his or her strengths and limitations but still accepts and nurtures all of these traits. Their acceptance is unconditional and firmly grounded in reality.

Depression is caused by a complex array of factors, both chemical and psychological, but it is believed that over time, poor self-esteem can lead to depression. Your feelings may have stemmed from repeated negative experiences in childhood, or they may have seemingly developed from nowhere. Despite positive reflections from those around you, feelings of poor self-esteem can still prevail. You can work to conquer your inferiority by encouraging healthy self-esteem. Some of the things you can try are:

  • Reward your accomplishments
  • Focus on your strengths and positive qualities
  • Remind yourself that you are worthy of praise
  • Partake in enjoyable activities
  • Ask friends for affection when you need it
  • Nurture your body with a healthy diet and exercise
  • Be forgiving of yourself when things don't go as planned

It's important to embrace beneficial behaviours but equally important to avoid those that hinder the development of healthy self-esteem. Try to avoid:

  • Unfairly harsh personal criticism
  • Placing unrealistic expectations on yourself
  • Viewing a situation as a catastrophe, when the reality is much different
  • Allowing a negative experience to override all of the positive ones


Jealousy is a complicated feeling that many people experience and in small doses, it isn't necessarily harmful to your well-being. When you become consumed by jealousy, however, you feel inferior to other people and you basically want what they have. It means you have somehow convinced yourself that your happiness depends on obtaining what others possess. An individual who is jealous of someone else will often deny the feeling. By denying it, self-destructive behaviours can intensify as you act out frustration and anger when you can't attain your needs based on the merits of someone else.

How To Handle Competitiveness

Jealousy often leads to envy, which then leads to competitiveness. When you are highly competitive, you may find your drive is to outdo everyone else and to 'prove' your worth and success. This often stems from a fear of inadequacy, as well as poor self-esteem. It's a fear that others don't see the good in you, and that you must constantly outdo everyone to prove your value. By experiencing jealousy and envy of what others accomplish, you feel inferior and may push yourself to do more, but you only batter your self-esteem in the process as you set goals that you simply can't attain.

You can handle competitiveness by:

  • Interacting with many different types of people
  • Appreciating that your success isn't dependent on the accomplishments of others
  • Knowing that we each have different strengths and weaknesses
  • Avoiding judgement of yourself by everyone else's strengths

Bringing It All Together

Self-esteem, envy, jealousy, competitiveness-these all join to create a sense of inferiority. When you feel inferior, you also fear that other people will see these qualities in you and may reject you just as you have rejected yourself. Inferiority can keep you isolated and alone and can strengthen depression as well. By taking small steps to conquer your feelings of inferiority, you can:

  • Improve your self-confidence
  • Appreciate yourself and others without competing
  • Contribute positively to your depression management

By thinking that you are inferior, you stop yourself from reaching your own personal full potential and you prevent yourself from developing as a person. Everyone experiences joy, hope, sadness and distress from time to time but when you experience strong feelings of inferiority on a day-to-day basis, you risk a fall down the depression hole. You may have dealt with depression, be currently dealing with it or have yet to begin your management, but remember that it is best to prevent that fall rather than have to make the climb back up. Handling feelings of inferiority may be one part of your own complex depression equation and you have the ability to solve it.

You might also like...
Share Your Story, Join the Discussion or Seek Advice..
Why not be the first to leave a comment for discussion, ask for advice or share your story...

If you'd like to ask a question one of our experts (workload permitting) or a helpful reader hopefully can help you... We also love comments and interesting stories

(never shown)
(never shown)
(never shown)
(never shown)
Enter word:
Latest Comments
  • Blossom
    Re: Depression After an Abortion
    I'm 17 and had a surgical abortion last Tuesday (15th May 2018) at 12 weeks pregnanto. Ithe was completely unplanned so I…
    24 May 2018
  • Mrs.J
    Re: How to Rebuild Your Life After a Breakdown
    My husband had a breakdown 15 years ago. He lost his job and didn't worork for 3 years. During that time he…
    29 April 2018
  • Hello
    Re: Depression After an Abortion
    August 2017 I had my abortion it now arch 2018 I’ve hidden the way I felt and everything that happened when I found out me and my…
    27 March 2018
  • Amanda
    Re: How to Rebuild Your Life After a Breakdown
    Last year I had a severe Breakdown . I felt like everything in my life was going great .than our od nowhere I…
    27 March 2018
  • Tash
    Re: How to Rebuild Your Life After a Breakdown
    My father molested me and abused my mom. My mom divorced him when I was young. I felt for a long time that…
    15 March 2018
  • Mrs Cee
    Re: Depression After an Abortion
    I had a surgical abortion on the 14th of Feb, I was 11 weeks pregnant. My partner forced me to have it because he said we needed…
    27 February 2018
  • Madhuri
    Re: Parental Favouritism and Depression
    My mother used to do partiality between me and my younger brother in terms of food.How to solve this problem?
    26 February 2018
  • OvercomeDepression
    Re: Depression After an Abortion
    Zzz - Your Question:I had an abortion 5 years ago, I was in my last year of school, the second person I ya ever slept with, and…
    19 February 2018
  • Zzz
    Re: Depression After an Abortion
    I had an abortion 5 years ago, I was in my last year of school, the second person I ya ever slept with, and the first and last…
    19 February 2018
  • OvercomeDepression
    Re: Depression After an Abortion
    Zzz - Your Question:I had an abortion 5 years ago, I was in my last year of school, the second person I ya ever slept with, and…
    9 February 2018
Further Reading...
Our Most Popular...
Add to my Yahoo!
Add to Google
Stumble this
Add to Twitter
Add To Facebook
RSS feed
You should seek independent professional advice before acting upon any information on the OvercomeDepression website. Please read our Disclaimer.